I sure am.
When I look at all the stuff I haven’t done, I get even more tired.
I’ve trudged through most of my life, always feeling behind, not enough, overwhelmed. I bet I have a lot of company in this endeavor. We marinate in self-accusation sooo much of the time. We beat ourselves in ways we wouldn’t treat a two-dollar mule.
And it doesn’t help. We don’t get more done. We just feel worse.
The list of things to do never really gets smaller. Sure for a minute or two, but there is always more than a person could ever actually do in 10 lifetimes. However, the list of things we’ve done does get bigger.
So I stopped looking at what I didn’t do. Instead…
I look at what I did.
Even the tiny things.
And I celebrate them.
Got out of bed! Woohoo!
Made coffee! You go, girl!
Yeah, those are pretty small things. I’ve done bigger things, too. Since you are reading this, I wrote an article today. It’s not very long, but hopefully it gets its point across.
(Well done, Alia!)
When I’n not paralyzed by my myriad failures, I sometimes actually feel like doing something!
Recently, my friend Tea said, “What if I don’t have to improve? What if there isn’t something wrong with me? What if it’s okay to be okay? I have to tell you that this thought is terrifying.”
And it is.
What if we just felt better about ourselves?
Would the world collapse?
Probably not. And we might enjoy life a little more.
In tough times like this, it helps to be extra kind and gentle to ourselves, to our inner child, to our bodies (who I am pretty sure ARE our inner child).
So this is my suggestion today. Pat yourself on the back. Lower the bar for your life. Do something you feel like doing, just because (maybe taking a nap–that’s what I’m going to do).
With love and hugs,
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